The funny awkwardness of Foster Care
Ten Wrong (and Right) Ideas About Foster Care:
1. Myth: Kids in foster care are there because they are juvenile delinquents.
- This is rarely the case.
- Sometimes the parents have made bad choices.
2. Myth: Kids in foster care are so emotionally damaged there is nothing that can be done to fix them.
- Children in foster care have been wounded but not irreparably.
- Investing time in these kids can have a very positive effect on them.
- Healthy attachments are important for healing.
- God uses healthy homes to heal.
3. Myth: You have to be married to be a foster parent.
- This is false.
- There are a few requirements but it is possible to be single and a foster parent
4. Myth: You have no control over who comes into your home.
- You can tell the Social Workers what types of children you are able to care for.
- You can say no when Social Workers ask to place a child into your home.
5. Foster parents get too attached to foster kids.
- This is true, but a terrible reason to refuse to get involved
- There is opportunity for great healing
- What you are doing has eternal results!!
6. Myth: You have no rights as a foster parent
- DCF has a Bill of Rights for Foster Parents
- You have the right to make decisions in connection with the child consistent with the limits and policies of DCF
- You have the right to receive training
- You have the right to receive financial reimbursement
- You have the right to receive services to reach DCF personnel
- You have the right to information known to DCF relevant to the care of the child
- More Information: Foster Parents’ Rights
7. It’s too painful
- This may be true, but it it is SO worth it.
8. It’s expensive
- Sure… but there are resources that can be provided for you.
- There is also joy in caring for a child in this way.
9. MYTH: After adoption the Biological family can get the kid back
- Not true!
10. MYTH: “The system is broken…”
- It seems messy and broken because it starts with messy and broken people.
Seven things you can do even if you don’t want to be a Foster Parent:
- Pray for them. Find children at AdoptKids.org
- Speak up for them. Tell others the importance or become a court appointed advocate (NationalCASA.org).
- Provide financially. Give to the church where a portion goes to orphan causes, give to the BIC Spice program, provide for those who can do foster care or adopt, share in a child’s adoption fund (Reece’s Rainbow).
- Support those who help orphans. Mow, baby sit, organize meals for foster parents. Have a shower for a family adopting a child of any age.
- Become a foster parent. Adopt a child.
- Mentor and care for them by forming a relationship with a foster/adopted children.
- Support and care for birthparents who placed or are placing a child with an adoptive family.
Is Revenge Acceptable?
Psalm 58:10-11 vs Proverbs 24:17-18